Anxiety and worry combine to place a cloud cover over our minds. This cloud is so thick that it takes all of one’s resources just to be able to think clearly for one moment of time.
But what does worrying do for us? Worry is like a dense fog that can cloud our vision and slow us down. It even knocks out our sense of proportion. When we worry about things that happened in the past, we fail to move on in life. We also worry about health, money, and other things that have yet to happen — a situation that causes us even more trouble.
We worry about our careers…bills…house payments…tuition fees…who our kids are dating…the stock market…interest rates…the ozone layer… Comets colliding with our planet. Our “enslaving expectations” make us restless and afraid. Discontentment and worry destroys our personal peace and “eats us alive.Worry is like a task master, that is almost constantly putting pressure on you. It is like living in a state of chronic frustration. Our dissatisfaction also magnifies our weaknesses.
Another cause for worry is when we needlessly compare ourselves to others or when we are consumed by envy and greed. Keeping up with the Joneses is another social malady that afflicts so many people. Insecurity and lack of confidence makes some individuals look and see how “other people’s grass is always greener.” This situation drives them to equal or even surpass other people’s material possessions or social standing. Worse, they do this using pretense and other inauthentic means of improving their status. The norm for society is to gain more possessions, so that they won,t look small to the neighbors. This is considered to be more proof of wealth and success.
How do we deal with worries, then?
The first step to dealing with worry is to identity what worries you the most. Accepting that you have fears is the first necessary step.
The second step is to tell yourself that worries are not necessarily logical or rational. It is important for a worrier to start believing that their worries can be solved. While having feelings of worry is a valid emotion, a worrier must really decide to start the journey to freedom from fear.
The third step is to make a sensible plan on how to address those worries. For example, if your children frequently come home late at night, give your children mobile phones so that you can always keep in touch. The worrier must take action and correct situations that cause anxiety.
The fourth most important step is to let go. Letting go is key to overcoming worry and all the stress that comes with it. In order to have faith we need to let go…God will make things work together for good.” Step Five It does not mean that one gives up in resignation. Letting go is simply entrusting one’s work or one’s life to a higher power after one has already done the best he or she could under the circumstances. After you’ve done everything you could, there is already no point in being in anguish over life’s many details and tasks.